Monthly Archives: October 2012

Lie Down I Think I Love You

Not a command I generally associate with handbags, that is until I stumbled upon a little shop on a birthday trip to Brighton where I found some gorgeous bags that spoke to me through their labels. However, Lie Down I Think I Love You is just a visitor to Brighton, their products are made in London and their ‘jewel-like’ shop you’ll find in Islington.

The bag that really caught my eye was in buttery soft pale blue re-worked vintage leather, large enough to hold all the useless crap that I insist on carting about with me and topped with a bright vintage scarf. It was less than half price in the sale so it soon became my birthday present.

Lie Down I Think I Love You Bag

Lie Down I Think I Love You have some real beauties of bags, like this Baby Bubble Pop at £255.

Lie Down I Think I Love You, Baby Bubble Pop / Red Patent

The scarves are interchangeable so you can change them to match your mood, the seasons or your outfit and there’s a lovely animation that shows you how to tie the scarf so it looks as good as when you bought it. Choose from a range of vintage scarves, all at £15, my favourite is the one with the cars…

This Hard Heart will make your’s melt, one side is patent and the other has been covered with vintage scarf fabric and will set you back £165.

Lie Down I Think I Love You Hard HeartThey are more than I would normally spend on a bag if I’m honest, but the quality of workmanship is really good and I think they’re very unique with their vintage elements. Look out for their sales with most things reduced to 50% of the original price.

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Baby Loss Awareness Day

The Hankerer has been pretty quiet over the last few months but I’d like to restart with a fitting post.

Today is National Baby Loss Awareness Day in the UK and International Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Day in the US. I lost my hanker because I was grieving for our pregnancies that had ended too soon and after the stress of multiple losses the smaller things just didn’t matter to me for a while.

Baby Loss Awareness Banner

This evening a ‘Wave of Light’ will commence globally in remembrance of babies that have died in pregnancy, or during or after birth. At 7pm, candles will be lit and burned for an hour and as people do this in different time zones, a wave of light will spread across the world.

One in five pregnancies end in miscarriage and every day in the UK 17 babies are stillborn or die shortly after birth. That is a huge number of grieving parents but still it seems taboo to talk about it and people don’t know how to react or what to say. I found the silence the hardest thing to deal with.

My husband and I didn’t meet our three would-be babies but the attachment I feel to them is very real. Whether they were medically considered clumps of cells, embryos or fetuses, they were babies to us. These failed pregnancies represent possibilities lost. We had planned for them, we had a bedroom for them, we had light-heartedly bickered over names, researched prams that would fit in my tiny car boot, bought maternity bras and imagined their faces and characteristics. I witnessed the flicker of the tiny heartbeat only for it not to be there at the next scan. I willed them to keep growing, tried in vain to stop my body miscarrying and bargained with God that if this one could make it… In life we have control over most things; we have come to expect it. The lack of control over miscarriage is maddening and humbling all at once. I am a person who needs a plan and I didn’t have a plan for this.

We will be lighting three candles this evening in remembrance of the three miscarriages I’ve had over the last year and I will always love them and remember them as my babies.

If you need support or want to know how to help a friend more information can be found at The Miscarriage Association, Tommy’s or Sands.

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